Twice in a Lifetime 1985

Late summer in 1984, the quaint suburb of Holden, Washington, near Seattle, sets the backdrop for a tale of love and conflict. Harry McKenzie, portrayed by Gene Hackman, is a seasoned army veteran and steelworker, enjoying a typical day at the steel mill before returning home to his family. As he approaches his 50th birthday, he gathers with his wife, children, and grandchildren for a birthday dinner filled with joy, though it soon becomes evident that his marriage has lost its spark. While Harry’s wife supports his evenings out with friends, she stays at home with the family, watching television as Harry seeks companionship elsewhere.

At the neighborhood’s local Shamrock Tavern, Harry is joined by friends from work, including his old buddy Nick, played by Brian Dennehy. It is here that Harry encounters a new and vivacious barmaid named Audrey Minelli, who is beautifully brought to life by Ann-Margret. Their flirtation sparks a celebration of Harry’s birthday, with romantic tension culminating in a kiss when Harry requests a dance from Audrey.

However, as the night unfolds, complications emerge. Keith, Harry’s son-in-law portrayed by Stephen Lang, struggles with his own unemployment and fits into the increasingly tangled web of family dynamics. The picture becomes murkier when Harry’s marriage to Kate hits a rough patch; she becomes suspicious of Harry’s relationship with Audrey, putting additional strain on the already fragile household.

Harry and Audrey embark on clandestine outings around Seattle, but their rendezvous does not remain under wraps for long. Kate receives alarming news from a coworker who spots Harry sharing a kiss with Audrey, igniting a confrontation between Harry, his daughters—particularly Sunny played by Amy Madigan—and his wife. With tensions boiling, family loyalties are tested as accusations and hurt feelings lead to explosive arguments.

As the story progresses, we witness Harry grappling with the complexities of love and family. He confesses to Kate that they cannot continue in this manner, although she still professes her love for him. Their children, like Helen, portrayed by Ally Sheedy, observe their father’s selfishness, adding to the pain felt at home.

With a rollercoaster of emotions, from moments of intimacy to profound heartache, Harry finds solace for a fleeting moment with Audrey, enjoying seemingly blissful dates and conversations filled with longing. Yet, the specter of family duties looms large, and Harry struggles to turn his back on the consequences of his actions.

As wedding plans for Helen and Tim progress, Harry is left questioning his choices. He attends the wedding ceremony, struggling to fit into a family that feels increasingly foreign to him. Ultimately, Harry acknowledges that his current life with Audrey comes with sacrifices. The film closes with a poignant moment as he walks away from the wedding, bouquet in hand, signifying his acceptance of the new life he has chosen—with all its ups and downs—with Audrey.